Enjoy Being Single
Enjoy being single and love to be on your own company. It’s not the end of the world – insert eye roll – yes, you can be on your own and HAPPY!
Some people make it sound like a tragedy, or something went wrong along the way. So far, singlehood has been awesome to me and probably the happiest time of my life.
The single life is so much simpler, no guessing games, and I know exactly where I stand. There is no compromising, and I like to be the one who calls the shots.
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Marriage, relationships, dating… been there, done that. Being solo took me into a journey of self-discovery, where I found myself and my place in the world.
It sounds cheesy, but I have discovered true happiness and inner peace —something I have not experienced with anyone else.
That is not to say that having a partner sucks.
I know I know what you are going to say. This girl hasn’t met the right person yet. And you are absolutely correct!
Plenty of couples are living the dream. You watch them, and you know they were made for each other.
With them, magic is always in the air. They are what I call a power couple, the lucky ones! Sorry, the single life might not beat that.
Still, there are lots of reasons why you should enjoy being single. I hope you realize you are the only one that can hold you back from happiness.
Let’s get down to it! Here are 8 tips for you to make the most of your single life.
1. Single Doesn't Mean Lonely
It has been ages since my last relationship, and almost two years since I last dated. Still, I haven’t felt lonely.
My life is complete, as is. I am usually occupied with my daughter, who keeps me on my toes. Julia has the dogs under her spell, and they are a strong team.
Add to that, the dogs’ shenanigans. There is a surprise EVERY DAY! Yep, they are brats!!!
Never a dull moment around here. This house is busy!!! My daughter and the pups brighten up my day, making my heart full. No time to feel alone. Not even for a minute!
There is always something to do, and I rarely watch TV. Usually, you will find me working, or spending time with Julia and the dogs, reading or taking a course, and maybe working a bit more. Not much free time after all is said and done.
Keep yourself occupied. Focus on what you have and not on what you don’t have.
2. Rediscover Yourself
Now is the best time to get in touch with your inner self. Many times we neglect our desires in favour of a relationship.
Ask yourself many questions, dig deep. Get to know who you truly are.
What do you like? What are your dreams? Are you living up to your standards? What are you doing to achieve your goals?
Are you happy? If not, why not? Understand the reason as you are the only person that can make that happen. Nobody else!
Start appreciating hanging out with yourself, and you will enjoy being single and life overall.
Are you taking care of yourself? You will find some great self-care tips here.
3. The Perfect Opportunity To Reinvent Yourself
Now, you may find you have some extra time and not know what to do with it. I know what you can do!
Use this precious time to better yourself. Acquire a new skill, go back to school, find a new hobby, get in shape, volunteer, start a side hustle, improve your life. Go chase your dreams!
Whatever you decide to do, it will help you to unveil a better version of yourself. And you will fall in love with the person you are becoming.
To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness.
4. Know Your Worth
Loving yourself is essential. When you are fully aware of what you bring to the table, you know your worth and that my friend is power!
Love yourself first, because that's who you'll spend the rest of your life with.
Be picky! Don’t settle for less than you deserve. Why would you not choose the best?
Make a list of the “Must Haves” for the ideal candidate. Think hard how you would like your significant other to be. What the deal-breakers and the mandatory requisites are.
This list will help you know first what you want in a partner, and second, what you should look for if you decide to get back in the dating scene.
Remember, you are fabulous and enjoying being single. You are unique, and one in a million! Give yourself time to find a match to your awesomeness.
5. Enjoy Being Single! It Doesn't Have To Be Boring
Take your beautiful self to the movies, get all dressed up and go to that new fancy restaurant, or watch that show you’re dying to see.
I will even dare to say, go on a date if that is what you want. Or two, or three? Speedy dating anyone? Have fun!
Take a step further and travel alone. I have done it, and it was a blast! As a true Disney fan, I went to Disneyland and LA for a week.
My point is, enjoy being single! Go on an adventure! Don’t wait for anyone to live your life. Explore new places and do exciting things.
Time is unforgivable and won’t stop later for you to catch up!
6. The Freedom that Comes with Being Single
Freedom ought to be the best part of being single. You are no longer on some else’s schedule.
You pick the movie. You choose the next vacation destination, and that is the end of “WHAT? Disney AGAIN???” type of question.
No more tip-toeing to enter the house unnoticed so you can quickly hide the new five pairs of shoe shopping bags you just bought it on sale. No explaining needed. I’m sure you got a great deal!
Instead, you walk in like a boss, shaking those bags like you own it! Yay, that is FREEDOM!!!
You decide what car you drive, where you live, how much you spend on your pets, and the restaurant you are going to eat.
If you choose to take your dog to NYC for a treatment, you do it because you can! You are on your own.
The remote control for the TV will be back in your hands. Unless you have kids, then nope, sorry you will never have that power back again. Sofia and Vampirina will be your best friends, get used to it.
That is also the end of pretending headaches and migraines. You are cured! LOL
7. No Need To Pick Up After Another Grown-Up
Not having to pick up after another grown-up is a big one for me. I am not saying names here, as that wouldn’t be nice.
However, MANY spouses feel entitled to live like they are in an all-inclusive resort. Where they come in and out of the house and do absolutely nothing to help out, they want no part in it.
It’s funny because most times, both partners have a nine to five job, and still, only one ends up doing all the housework. I know there are some exceptions, but it should be the rule.
Up to this day, I love doing laundry, the dishes, cleaning, putting things away, said NO ONE ever!
Seriously though, this is the type of thing that puts a strain on any relationship.
8. Better Sleep
Can you imagine sleeping in a bed where the only snoring sound you hear is coming from the dogs? And dog snoring doesn’t count as everything they do is adorable. For all I care, they can take over the world!
There is nothing more annoying than another human snoring beside you.
Being single means I should be able to sleep like an X or a Y or pretty much as any letter of the alphabet. Just need to be careful to not disturb the dogs!
Relationship status: sleeping in my bed diagonally.
Sometimes Molly sleeps in my leg, and Chase shares my pillow. Not comfy. Yet, so sweet. 🙂
The dogs claim their spot first. Then it is up to me to find the gap where I can fit in. Julia has now also joined us with a permanent spot, which I hope it is only temporary.
It’s all fun, and I LOVE the vibe in my bedroom. If I had a significant other, it would be a struggle to get him to sleep in the same bed with us. So, let’s keep it simple for now 🙂
A Relationship Should Not Define You
Some people are desperate for a relationship. If that is you, ask yourself why.
A relationship should complement your life, not complete. If you cannot make yourself happy, what makes you think you can make someone else happy?
Enjoy life to the fullest. It is so liberating to have the decision power and to be the one making the rules and also breaking them — no one to tell you how things are going to work inside your house.
You never know what tomorrow will bring. You might no longer be single. Who knows?
If you enjoyed being single, FOR SURE, you will be on the top of your game, having lots to offer. Your partner will be the lucky one to have you!
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6 thoughts on “8 Tips To Enjoy Being Single And Happy”
What an empowering post! I wish I had these tips when I was still single & had more time for myself. Just in time to share for “Single-Awareness Day” on the 14th! ā¤ļø
Thank you so much Angella š
Thanks for sharing! This was a great post! Single moms unite! I’ve been most of my son’s life and it was always nice to be able to make my own parenting choices (most of the time)!
Thank you Dawn ā¤ļø
I don’t have any children or pets . I hate being busy . Single has to mean lonely . I know myself as well as I possibly can . I don’t know where to go to learn a new skill, I hate taking classes, I can’t get “into” volunteering, and the only dreams I have involve a romantic relationship . People who enjoy being single don’t like being in relationships . When I go to a Mexican restaurant alone, I ask “What good is Mexican food when I don’t have a woman ?” . When I go to a Chinese restaurant alone, I ask “What good is Chinese food when I don’t have a woman ?” . I’d rather compromise with a marriage partner than have unrestricted freedom . Walking into my house with a handful of things I bought is only a reminder that what I want most isn’t there . That marriage partner snoring in bed next to you is annoying … until you’re widowed, and then you miss it . The only “plus” I have is people who enjoy being single — to the extent your article describes — don’t like being married . I really shouldn’t be single !
Hi Michael, from your comment, I can totally understand why you are feeling lonely and as if being single is a bad thing. I’m a life and mindset coach, and I can assure you the most important relationship you will ever have is the one with yourself. Being single doesn’t have to mean lonely, and your thoughts are making you feel the way you’re feeling. I do thought work, and that simply means we create our reality with our thinking. The circumstance – being single – is neutral but what you are making that means is what is causing you to feel lonely. You offered many thoughts that would cause you not to enjoy being single but it’s important to notice thoughts are optional and we can intentionally choose to think thoughts that serve us better. Relationships can be great, and so can be being single. Work on your relationship with yourself and see how things will change for you. I hope this helps š