From Overwhelmed and Hopeless to Changing My Whole Damn Life

I went from feeling trapped and detached to becoming the writer of my own story. For quite a while, I was living a life that didn’t align with who I was and anything I wanted. It felt like I was a mere spectator, watching events unfold in my own life as if it belonged to someone else.

 I was in a marriage I didn’t want to be in, working in a soul-draining job, living in a place that didn’t feel like home and overworking because I didn’t believe I had a choice. 

On the weekends, I would run to my parents’ house to get away from reality. It was easy to keep going because things could always be worse, but that meant gradually losing myself, my hopes and dreams. My focus was only on surviving.

One day I woke up tired of feeling hopeless, and I decided I was not going to be the victim of my own story. That reality would no longer do.

I quickly realized I was desperate for more, and I needed change. Just surviving was exhausting! I wanted to thrive and feel alive and experience life in a new way.

Changing my whole life was going to be hard, but I had to choose my hard. Little by little, piece by piece, I dismantled that life to create space for a fresh start. It felt like pressing a reset button.

That brings us to today, where I am divorced, living in Canada with my daughter (became a mother at 40), whom I raise on my own, plus my 2 rescue dogs. I recently made a cross-country move to be closer to the mountains to a place that feels like home.

A few years ago, I started a coaching business, and I still have a long list of things I want to do, goals I want to achieve, and places I want to visit.

This is the life I chose. I am exactly where I am supposed to be.

When you know what you deserve and lean on who you want to be, you take responsibility for everything that happens in your life and let the old stories go to create space for the new ones. The impossible becomes possible and nothing can get in your way. 

I’m the proof you can live a joyful and fulfilling life on your own terms and give zero f@cks to societal norms. I walk the walk! 

You just need to keep choosing you.